We have launched the Ida B. Wells Leadership Academy in Brooklyn, NY. This program has been a dream of ours for a while and is modeled after the African and Free schools that are part of the heritage of liberation, transformation, and resistance in the United States.
We are accepting 10 applicants for this Saturday program who must not only submit a complete application form, but be interviewed by BGP staff.
The Academy is a year-long commitment that participants make to themselves and their cohort members and we want to make sure that participants are ready for the challenges, and growth that will occur.
A description of the program, as well as the application, can be found here! We are accepting applications on a rolling basis, however our first session is on Saturday, September 27th!
We’re hosting a drop-in information session!
Saturday, September 6th
The Shelby White and Leon Levy Information Commons, Room 7
Central Library Brooklyn Public Library @ Grand Army Plaza
ICYMI: The application deadline for the Ida B. Wells Academy has been extended through Monday, September 22nd. And our first session is on Saturday, October 4th.
A description and online application can be found at this link on our website. Get your applications in!!
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"There’s a very good sentence written by a black woman named Kay Lindsey in which she said, ‘Where the white woman is the sexual object, black women are sexual laborers.’
White womanhood has been the prevailing standard of femininity in this country [the United States of America]. If you were beautiful you had pale skin,…you had light skin, preferably light hair, you were gentle, you were retiring, you were sweet, you were chaste.
Because of our historical position as black women, most of us were slaves which means we worked as hard as any man on the plantations, then we moved into factories. Most of us were not pure because on plantations we were bought to be breeders and whores. We were not qualified for the prevailing standards of femininity, white femininity, so we were passed down.
If you are a woman who does not fit women’s standards, you’re a piece of crap. So we [black women] got none of the benefits of being a woman. They’re double-edged benefits but they are benefits: money from wealthy men, so-on and so-forth. We [black women] got all of the liabilities. As I said before, we are on the lowest rung, even in a profession like prostitution because we are valueless as black women.
So we [black women] were brought up outside the pale of femininity but we weren’t considered worth turning into useful men; because ‘What is a Black Woman?’ She’s a woman and she is also black. We weren’t as good as black men and we were useless, we weren’t good enough to be imitating white women. So we had nothing.
[Black women] were total outsiders. Which is why economically we are on the absolute bottom and psychologically, if you will, of the barrel.”]
Most adult children of toxic parents grow up feeling tremendous confusion about what love means and how it’s supposed to feel. Their parents did extremely unloving things to them in the name of love. They came to understand love as something chaotic, dramatic, confusing, and often painful—something they had to give up their own dreams and desires for. Obviously, that’s not what love is all about.
Loving behavior doesn’t grind you down, keep you off balance, or create feelings of self-hatred. Love doesn’t hurt, it feels good. Loving behavior nourishes your emotional well-being. When someone is being loving to you, you feel accepted, cared for, valued, and respected. Genuine love creates feelings of warmth, pleasure, safety, stability, and inner peace."
Susan Forward, Toxic Parents, p381 (via mxnotmrdarcy)
This also applies to survivors of abusive relationships.